|I woke up at 4:30 am and could not get back to sleep.|
Today was the day I was going to renegotiate my contract with a long-time client.
I had done my market research. The gap between what the market was paying and what we were receiving was significant. I compiled my data. I discussed what I would say with family and friends. I had rehearsed more than once and finally reached a place of confidence and peace.
I was ready for this hard conversation.
Or so I thought!
Pre-negotiation Sleepless Night
Staring at the clock, watching the minutes tick by, I realized I was not at peace. I was scared.
My thoughts would not stop. I was experiencing the dreaded Early Morning Second-Guessing:
- Was this a sign that asking for more money was a mistake?
- Maybe now is the wrong time and I should wait. The beginning of the year might be a better time. Why? No reason.
- Plus, I really liked the client. I liked the work and I was good at it. Why upset the apple cart?
- And…biggest fear…what if they decided not to renegotiate and I ended up with no client?
Negotiating is Scary as SH*T !
I knew that what I was asking for was reasonable to the market. All the data supported that I am underpaid. My work has been exceptional. I knew I was deserving and worthy to receive what I was asking for but that does not mean it’s not hard as SH*T to ask.
Then I reminded myself why I was renegotiating.
- It had been 3 years without revisiting our agreement. It was time.
- I was getting paid significantly less by this client than any other clients and significantly less than the market.
- I am one of the best at what I do and deserve to be paid accordingly.
Here is the thing. All those facts of why I needed to renegotiate were true before I went to bed, and they were still true at 4:30 in the morning.
Nothing had changed.
Except – Fear had decided to join the negotiation.
Fear has a very loud voice. Fear is afraid of change. Fear is an expert of coming up with all kinds of reasons why you should not rock the boat.
I was at a choice point.
I could listen to Fear. I could walk away. An easier choice in many ways.
But here’s the thing – even if Fear was right and I did not succeed in my negotiation I would still be better off having asked… no matter what the outcome.
- I am better because I faced my fears.
- I am better because I opened up a door to the possibility of more money. I don’t ask I don’t receive. Giving is great. Receiving is equally great.
- I am better off because I was building my “ASK” muscle. And once this muscle is built it never atrophies. It never loses strength.
I choose to ask.
I am ready to build my ASK muscle… are you?
Complete these sentences:
What I really want is…
I want this because…
I would like it by…
Recite this mantra:
I am afraid and that’s ok!
I use my ASK muscle
and go for what I want anyway!
Now go and build that ASK muscle. Receive what you really want!
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